Aside from the obvious questions like, would I feel comfortable sharing my partner with someone else, or being intimate and in a relationship with two people myself, I also have other questions too.
Growing up, whenever I had more than one close friend it seemed to always pose a problem with one of us feeling left out. Granted we were young at the time but most people would probably agree that a group of 3 friends isn’t logistically as easy as just 2. Wouldn’t a thrupple potentially make someone feel left out on a regular basis because someone would be left out on a regular basis? I wouldn’t like to feel that way or think I’m causing anyone else to feel that way.
The divorce rate is upwards of 50% in the US. It is hard enough between 2 people. How would it possibly be better with an extra person injecting his or her opinion in every disagreement and desires in an already busy life, taking some of the potential quality time away from you or your partner? Life is hectic and we have only so much time for each other when there is only two people, not to mention our children which leads me to the next question.
A thrupple is so far out of the norm at the moment. What would children of thrupple parents, my children, have to endure as a result of my choosing to be in a thrupple? I can only imagine that not only would they be ridiculed for it by other kids, but they would also constantly have to explain their family situation to teachers, other kids, those kids’ parents, coaches, counselors and on and on. Is that fair to a kid?
I see the appeal of having a built-in babysitter, additional income and help with everything from cooking, laundry and helping the kids with their homework, but I don’t find having to take care of an additional person appealing at all. I’m tired just thinking about the possibility. And I don’t think it’s fair to do to a kid. At all.
While I think loving more than one person is possible, I don’t think being in a healthy relationship with more than one person is possible. I definitely would not like to share my partner or sleep with more than one person in a relationship at a time. I don’t want to see my partner kiss, make love to or tell someone else he loves her. And being that there is only so much quality time to go around, I think it should go to the kids, me, the cats and the turtle, in that order.
if this makes me old fashioned, so be it. Some things will never change for me. I like my partner just like my chocolate and my coffee, all for me. 💜